You already know that your thoughts and emotions create your life. You know you can change something inside to make a difference in the results you have been getting in dating. Most of what stops you is deep within your subconscious mind. The problem is that you cannot see the subconscious mind directly; you can only get a glimpse of it by witnessing your experience.
Besides using meditative tools to shift the inner mind, another way to change your belief structure is to take aligned action toward your love. What you do is a result of what you are thinking and feeling. Your actions speak loudly to the subconscious mind of what your priorities are and what you expect.
If you avoid dating, turn away from an opportunity to better yourself, or go back to that really hot ex-boyfriend for a romp, you are not acting in alignment with what you want. You are reinforcing to your subconscious that things aren’t going to change and that you are going to remain single. You are revealing your subconscious deep belief that you don’t expect love to happen.
You can put up fancy vision boards and listen to meditations all day long, but if your actions do not mirror your desire for true love, you will continue to confuse the subconscious as to what you really want and believe is possible. You know you hate it when guys tell you one thing and then do another, so why do that to yourself?
When you take action toward love, you must also believe in receiving love (not dragging yourself to a dating event and saying to yourself, “this is going to be a waste of time.”) This misaligned action also confuses the subconscious mind. Every dating event becomes a waste of time and you get mad at the events when it is the belief within your own mind that is creating the lack of results.
The mind likes to exaggerate and make assumptions based on the past. So if you are avoiding an activity, it means that you have some past experience that didn’t work out and you assume that every future activity will be the same. This is far from true. Does every single event have the same exact people every time? No. Does Match.com freeze memberships so no new possibilities will be shown to you? No.
Some may argue that they are so hopeful going to an event and then feel crushed afterward because they didn’t meet anyone. They claim they had faith and good expectations and then were disappointed. The wrong-thinking is that THIS event was the one chance for love and going with an expectation that high will clearly confuse the subconscious because your ideal guy or gal isn’t going to be everywhere you go. Many times they are just lying to themselves because they really don’t believe on a deep level that they can have true love and you get what you believe.
If you continue to take action toward what you want, the subconscious will deliver what you expect to receive. They key is to let go of how love shows up for you. Let go of the tension of trying to making it happen and focus on what you can control which are your actions. Sometimes taking a bold action can completely transform a subconscious belief and deliver your true love faster than any other method. Getting out of your comfort zone is a sure way to break old mental habits.
Think about the actions you have taken toward love in the past week. Then, write down next to it why did I do this? What do I really believe that led me to taking that action? Remember not taking action is also doing something. What opportunities did you walk away from because of fear?
Actions are not only about going online or attending an event, but also taking actions of self-care, doing personal improvement workshops, meditating, reading an advice book or hiring a coach. These are all actions to love that may be required for you in order for you to reach him or her. Don’t just skip over the necessary steps and look for quick jump to the end prize, but look for all the roads along the way that prepare and lead you to great love.
They key is to keep moving and not give up. Powerful actions get real results. Take one step at a time with great faith and true love will be yours.
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